Wednesday, January 9, 2008

Blame society

It feels the only thing I say when someone says a name, in class, in friendly circles, on tv, is who? In a way I begin to see the reasons for learning those extra words in the vocabulary, those silly four numbers, and those famous meaningless names, that my mind seem to dismiss as unimportant. If I am to learn them, though, I will have to make an effort out of the ordinary, and it will have to be constantly renewed. Much like my dedication to working out, actually; I see the necessarity, but fail the motivation.

I love Kingdom of Heaven. For many, many, many reasons. Was love that "simple" back in time? (Emotionally, I mean, of course. Romeo and Juliet had simple love, even if it wasn't easy.) It seems today, with individuality, spirituality, career and equality, and all that political correctness and mind-washing media, falling in love is more complicated, delicate and difficult to arrange than a billion dollar transaction between russian mafia and the Triad. Then again, am I only blaming society for my own faults? That is, after all, so much easier.

7 comments:

Sara said...

I strongly believe that people have always been people. Falling in love is always complicated in some way, and there is always something to complain about. And sure it makes things easier to have simple love, but with so many other factors there to screw it up it usually gets difficult anyway. And those factors are the worst, because they hinder you from daring to admit a simple love to yourself...

Sara said...

By the way, why is it suddenly only me commenting everywhere?! Lazy people :P

Iceye said...

Yeah, I know. Nobody likes me anymore =P

Riklurt said...

Actually, I believe love has been getting more complicated. In the past, there were direct obstacles to love - my father doesn't like him, her family is too wealthy, et cetera - but at least you always knew what was to be overcome.

Today, the obstacles aren't really obstacles but conditions. Sure, I *could* have a relationship with you, *if* I give up my flashy new job. I could come see you, if I skip an appointment. I could live with you and love you, if I drop my ideas of going to that fancy college.

These problems are much worse, because they require not determination, resolve and hard work - which direct obstacles do. Instead, they require you to value every tiniest bit of your own life, put them in the scales, see exactly how much you're willing to sacrifice.

This nitpickiness, I believe, is what makes love today complicated. I know it is for me, at least.

Sara said...

Yes but that is still the outside obstacles. These do not necessarily make simple love impossible. They complicate having a relationship, but not getting/having feelings, not in my case anyway. However they can as I said earlier help in denial of feelings. I see your point, but somehow I still think that we are the ones making those feelings seem more complicated than they are.

Iceye said...

What you're saying, Rik, is what I refered to as "easy" and "simple". Romeo and Juliet's love was quite simple in and of itself, they knew for sure their feelings for one another, while it wasn't easy with all the outer obstacles hindering them.

I agree to a degree with Sara, the feeling itself is probably always the same, simple or complicated, but I think we put up much more "conditions" today, outselves, hindering us from, perhaps, perceiving our own love.

Sara said...

Well that's what I meant :P